Is it possible as a busy Mum to 'have it all'?
We often hear this term bandied around left, right and centre - but is it really true and, perhaps more importantly, do we really want to have it all?
All day, every day, we are bombarded with latest news we 'should' be reading, advice from friends and family we 'should' be following, work we 'should' be doing, clubs we 'should' be getting our kids to, diets we 'should' be trying, trends on social media we 'should' jump on board with, books we 'should' be reading, podcasts we 'should be listening to, programmes we 'should' be watching, and so on, and so on, it is endless!!!
So how do we manage it all? Well firstly, I think there is a big difference between the idea that 'you can be anything' and 'having it all'. Can we be anything? Yes, I believe that if we truly want to and are prepared to do the work needed then we absolutely can be or do anything we set our minds to but, here's the important part, you have to believe that you can, and I mean really, truly believe it!! Tell yourself a hundred, a thousand times what you are going to be or do in order for your subconscious to get on board! The more you say it and really visualise yourself doing it, the more your brain will start to look at ways to make it happen. You know how if you woke up every morning thinking and saying 'blue car, blue car, blue car', picturing blue cars in your mind, then guess what you're going to end up seeing all the time - blue cars!!
Because you have given your subconscious a laser focus. So imagine if you were to give that same kind of laser focus to your dream, your goal then of course it is possible to achieve it, if you're open to the possibilities that will spring up around you.
But can you 'have it all'? Well, I would ask - why would you want to?? In a busy, crazy World where we are bombarded 24/7 from all angles for demands on our time, we have to get smarter and decide what it is we really want. Deep down what is our ultimate purpose in life? Now, I know, that is the million dollar question but let me know if this is something you're interested in because I have a few methods that I have used over the years to get down to the nitty gritty of what is really and truly important me and I'm happy to share some of that with you in future blog posts or podcast episodes. But once you get clear on what it is that you really want, you can get much better at saying NO which is ultimately what we all need to do more of. I know what you're thinking, easier said than done, and believe me I get it as I am a lifelong people pleaser and absolutely hate disappointing people but, at the end of the day I have to think about who are THE most important people to me in my life and that is of course myself, my husband and my kids. So if I have to say no to going to a school committee meeting because it clashes with my son's bedtime and I've missed a few of his bedtimes recently then I am ok with it. Do I feel a bit bad to let down others at the meeting, sure, but my son is my priority in that moment so really, it's an easy choice. I absolutely love this Marie Forleo quote:
So rather than trying to 'have it all' why not spend some time getting clearer on what it is that you really want, learn to say no to the things that will not fulfil you and start pointing your subconscious in the direction that you truly want to go.
Until next time,